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 Being single definitely has its perks

Being single definitely has its perks

If you're trying to get over an ex wife or girlfriend, you feel like you may never find another person to “complete you” in the Jerry McGuire sense of the phrase. You yearn for the next companion to lay by your side.

You fear being that single guy at the group dinner. The third, fifth, or even 7th wheel. Not having someone to come back home to at the end of the day.

But, what if you didn’t feel compelled to seek that companionship right away? Life as a single person has some pretty awesome benefits that are often overlooked.

As you start renewing your own unique identity independent of your ex, it’s critical to spend some time single, rediscovering yourself and having some fun with your newly found liberty.

Think about it…you can do whatever you want. How many times do you recall not being able to see the movie you had been dying to watch or go to the restaurant you had a craving for.

Now, you can act on whatever urges you have. Spontaneity should be your best friend. Want to take a weekend trip down to Key West? What’s holding you back? Go with the flow of life and enjoy the random opportunities that arise. They’re often the ones you will remember the most.

Time is one of the most invaluable commodities in the world. When you are single, you have boatloads of it. Pick up a new hobby, learn a different language, or invest more time into your business and career.

Single people are more likely to eat right and exercise well. Just look at the “Dad Bod” for instance. Single guys want to put the best possible version of themselves out there, so you’re more likely to eat clean and hit the gym more consistently than coming home to a fresh pan of newly baked brownies.

The way you interact with people around you is completely different as well. When you’re in a committed relationship, other friendships often fall by the wayside when you’re overly infatuated with your partner.

As a single guy, you keep in touch with old friends more often and spark up new conversations with random people at the bar or supermarket. You meet such a variety of people that can enrich your life in numerous ways.

There’s an obvious carryover from that notion to the dating scene. You can go out with such a diverse array of people, personalities, and body types.

On the flip side, you can rid your life of the toxic relationships that have been holding you back. Maybe it was your in-laws that you just couldn’t stand being around or her best friend that inflicted negativity into every conversation.

You can’t pick your family, but you sure as hell can pick your friends and the people you surround yourself with and when you’re single you have more options to make that clan have as positive an impact on your life as possible.

So next time you see that couple at the bar who seems to have it all together, don’t view them with jealously or despair. Odds are, he likely envies the independence you have as a bachelor.

Take the time to enjoy single life, embrace the freedom, focus on enriching and loving yourself and most importantly enjoy having the whole bed to yourself for a while! 

This post originally appeared on the Good Men Project